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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

To Hug or Not to Hug

Do you know someone who greets you with a big, happy-to-see-you, bear hug whenever you meet? I do, but none of them live within 4 hours of me.

I've never been a hugger. Well, I take that back. I hug on my kids and even a couple, like two, kids that I did not myself give birth to, but past that it stops. Oh I'll give you a nice smile and even a compliment but a hug.... notsomuch. What's wrong with a quick wave?

I enjoy huggers, though. I miss them.

That's why I'm going to try to become one.

I was telling my friend Rachel about this and she said "I think you're just either a hugger or you're not." She herself (is that proper grammar?) is not a hugger but agreed that she appreciates a great hug from those who are.

More and more I meet women that are here in my area alone. No family, no super-close friends, even. We say Hi and exchange pleasantries, then we get in our minivans and go home.

Well, No. More.
I would continue to elaborate on this but I need to leave to pick up BigBoy from preschool.
The experiment starts there. I'm going to hug someone and burst my personal space bubble if it kills me.
I'll let you know how it goes... wish me luck!


Daddy said...

Go for it! A good hug makes the hugger and the "huggee" feel better. I wish I was there to give you and the kids a big hug. Love you!

Cayce said...

Me too! Love you too!

Alesia said...

You go Cayce!! I just had this discussion with a long time friend. We gave each other at least five bear hugs while we were together, as a long time had passed since we saw each other....I heard that you are supposed to have 12 hugs a day, and I am decades behind :) I have alot of amazing girlfriends, but not many of them are huggers. I SO miss my sweet Mama's hugs, and therfore make a trip to Jane Heath's house for a "mama hug" from time to time!! Not only will you make the hugger feel better for the day, but you will be amazed at how you feel. HUGGGGGGGGGGGS!

Cayce said...

Alesia, you are one of the huggers I miss!!!